I hurt
I'm starting to think that the same is true of church policy.
I'm on a committee at church that is considering a new church covenant and by-laws. (The church was incorporated in 1904, and hasn't needed any until now. The IRS may be - and may not be, opinions vary -requiring them for older churches as well as new ones, so we decided we needed to put some together, in order to be sure of staying in compliance with the tax laws and so forth.)
We had a long meeting tonight to go over the proposed by-laws, which are being written by a guy who's a retired preacher. He's proposing a number of changes, mostly to the things that I think are good about the church. There will be a new way of doing things, a self-perpetuating committee that will oversee all aspects of church life, and many many restrictions.
Two of the committee members I expect this from; they're old, hard-line Baptists, and they've seized on this as an opportunity to crack the whip of what they believe to be true. If they believe any of it; there's a lot of cynicism and underhandedness for a group that is supposedly led by God.
The other two are going along, not arguing, just smiling and nodding. I ask questions, the two older guys shoot them down, and the others smile and nod.
On the way home tonight, I told my wife that we need to be praying to see if we should stay in this church or not; I don't know if I can.
The thing that hurts is that I love this body, I love how I've grown through it, and I love many of the people in it. (There are also, sadly, many that I don't know very well. I should work on that.) I truly respect the pastor, and the more I find out about him, the more I respect him. He lets God speak (most of the time - he is human) and I almost never go away from hearing him without feeling like I've learned something, or been challenged in some way. Every time I attend another church (if I'm out of town on Sunday), I'm reminded of how much I appreciate him. I love teaching Sunday School; I love working with the youth. I hate the thought of giving all of that up.
On the other hand, the thought of staying and fighting is just so ... draining. I can't tell you the stress I've been feeling, the trouble sleeping, the anger, the pain ... I don't know if I can face it. I don't know who to talk to; I've managed to lose the time I had to discuss this sort of thing with one of my friends who would understand, and the other one is serving as a missionary in another country, which makes him somewhat unavailable.
Father, if there was ever a time I needed your wisdom, it is now. If there was ever a time that I needed your love, it is now. Father, I pray your guidance for my church. Father, I crave your forgiveness for my unjust anger and bitterness - help me to see others as you see them, not with my eyes.